I got an e-mail from someone who visited our church who said I was rude. Apparently, I was too distracted in the lobby while talking to her. First of all, I want to apologize for that. So much of what we do on Sunday is designed for guests in mind and it's really not my intention to run people off. So, I sincerely apologize. With that said, I want to explain.
I'm a little ADD. Okay, a lot ADD. My mind is constantly running and it's hard for me to focus for ten minutes. Believe me, my wife tells me this all the time. And this may sound strange coming from a pastor, but I'm not a people person. I don't like talking to new people. I have to work hard at this. I'm being a little transparent in this post, so don't jump on me, but I don't like meeting new people and it's definitely out of my comfort zone to chit-chat with new people. I don't mean to be rude, and I know I can sometimes come across as a jerk, but that's just my personality.
I'm also trying to learn the balance between being available and talking to people on Sundays and focusing on the message. I know now why pastors get body guards. :) As much as I want to, it's not good stewardship of my time to try and explain to someone what the homosexuality message will be about our discuss the finer points of theology of that day's message. I want to, but I can't. I know Sunday is the only day that some people get to see me, but why my ADD kicks in, I really need to try hard to stay focused. I never realized how tough teaching three times in a row would be. When I go home on Sunday mornings, I feel like I've run a 15K (and I've run a 15K so the comparison is legit). So the 15 minutes that I get between services and standing off to the side of the theater and participating in worship is really valuable for me.
Anyway, sorry again if I act flustered or rushed or rude.
Gee, I always thought it was the pastor's job to kiss up to me, be at the hospital when I'm sick, and be anything except a real person.
Posted by: todd | August 07, 2007 at 10:11 AM
I was a visitor a few weeks back. I was actually surprised that you (Michael) were out in the theatre lobby greeting and talking. When speaking for 3 consecutive services I feel your head, heart, and vocal chords would be better off resting in a back room somewhere and being alone. I know Oakleaf is going through growing pains and that possibly other staff members are not available to do what you are doing, but if at all possible you should maybe consider them helping you with that load on Sunday morning. Everyone wants someone to listen to them, but on Sunday AM, God is using you for speaking!!!
Posted by: SHARON GREEN | August 07, 2007 at 10:22 AM
Finally...someone I can use to tell my wife I'm not the only one....LOL
Posted by: Jason Curlee | August 07, 2007 at 10:36 AM
I appreciate your transparency. I myself, functioning as a pastor over a young adult ministry in Dalton, have similar issues. I'm not the people person most would assume I am or should be... don't misunderstand me here I love people and I spend a lot of time with them but after speaking and the business of the day you are spent. Especially after THREE services in the heat that you are experiencing lately.
I hope those around you will understand your post and more importantly your heart.
Posted by: Jeff Green | August 07, 2007 at 10:57 AM
For someone who is not a "people person" you have done a wonderful job working against it. I've been attending your church since last August and from just observing you, it appears you are friendly and definitely go out of your way to meet new people and guests.
Posted by: Stacy | August 07, 2007 at 01:21 PM
You will grow as the Church grows and you have put GREAT people around you, use them more. Remember, God only made one person perfect and we nailed him to a Cross........
Posted by: J | August 07, 2007 at 07:08 PM
You spend weeks studying and preparing messages for us, and you give 110% of yourself in three consecutive services on Sunday morning to bring us that message.
You have set up an amazing circle of volunteers to greet and talk with visitors so that everyone feels welcome. Those around you know your heart is in the right place. Even Jesus had to get away from the crowd after teaching. Don't sweat the small stuff.
Posted by: helen | August 08, 2007 at 07:53 AM
What you have described as ADD is what I have always called tunnel vision, always focusing on the matter at hand. And yes, you have always been an introvert - even as a young child. So it comes naturally but I see that God always annoints and "gifts" you when you need it the most.
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